The Secret…It works!

Vacation 2016 has wrapped up and Ms. Ponder is back to the grind. If you’ve been following me on Facebook, most of you know by now that I had THE best vacation I could have asked for. I still carry all the positivity and high energy garnered the past month and I am finding ways in which I could channel this positivity in the best possible way. You know, trying to get maximum bank for the buck. 

If you’ve ever known me, one thing I love doing is ‘self-reflection‘. I reflect a lot on the past, taking important cues from it, analyzing the good stuff, learning from my mistakes and I use them to polish myself overall as a person. I am a perfectionist, to say the least! So, in many ways, I put a lot of pressure on me and my poor little mind to be an ideal person – not in your eyes, but in my own. My research so far reflects that I am a big ‘Work-in-Progress‘. While self-reflection is a wonderful tool to help you become a better person (tried and tested), it can also be a tricky means to get embroiled in some negativity. Gal what are you talking about? Let me enumerate.

Growing up, I had the good fortune to attend value based classes, apart from my regular formal education. One thing that we were taught was the concept of self-audit. In short, each week, it involved the process of making a mini checklist (which I love making) of few traits or habits that we feel we need to change in ourselves. It could range from small ones like helping your mom in the kitchen, finishing your homework, etc. to some high funda ones like controlling your anger, being polite to your friends, etc. We earned a check each time we excelled in that particular task. It was a wonderful way that helped me (and my irritating friends) in becoming a better person.

As time passed by, I grew up and the physical checklist soon became a mental one. Now, that’s where all the problem started! When there was a tangible piece of paper, I was in total control of what went into it. I would write only what I wished to write. When the list became a mental one, guess who was controlling it? My monkey mind – who loves swaying from one thought to another in a span of few milliseconds. This mind if kept in good control by us, can be pretty productive in analyzing our own physical traits, good and bad and eventually help us work on our flaws. As 2015 set in, guess what my mind started doing? It not only reflected on my physical and mental characteristics, it also began analyzing every single physical situation around me. Why did this happen to me? Why didn’t this happen to me? Why is life so unfair? Why does everyone except me get this and that? Soon, it was running amuck and I had no control over it.


Hey Madhuri’s mind! Wanna be friends?

I could have quickly snapped out of it, you may ask? I did! But, that ‘quickly’ took me about a year….only after I became conscious of my own thoughts. I don’t remember which famous guy said this, but it’s so apt to mention here. Rephrased based on my own recollection – “Man has learnt everything ranging from how to build bridges to how to travel to the moon. Alas, he hasn’t learnt how to conquer his own mind“. In my case, it was indeed true! So, then came 2016. I decided something had to change (You know, the whole ‘new year new me’). That something had to be my attitude. I was done being miserable within! The outside I had no control over, but the inside was, to an extent, in my power. Oh Madhuri! Could you start talking of ‘The Secret’ already.

The secret was simple – “Believe that good will happen to you, and it shall“.
Another secret to go with it – ‘It works‘.

We’ve heard this adage time and again. But, I couldn’t gauge the power of these few words until I tried and tested it out myself. I don’t know if I can say 2016 was the good year, because of me seeing it in a positive light or if it really worked in my favor. But, I can clearly say that it indeed has been a good year so far. In a physical sense, it has indeed given me various wonderful opportunities…more than what I deserve and I could ask for. And in the mental sense, it has taught me the true value of peace and happiness…isn’t that what we all are looking for?




I am linking up with Amanda’s ‘Thinking Out Loud’ series today.
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8 thoughts on “The Secret…It works!

    • pondernwonder says:

      Thanks Afu…! Yes, that monkey mind is one tricky little thing. The more you feed it, the more it misbehaves on you. Keep trying! 🙂


  1. L Ramaswamy says:

    Dear Mathu As time goes by your power of introspection and how you returned to positivity by internal churning has been vividly brought out This is the key to mind control and ultimate realisation that a positive solution can be Fathomed out for any of the so called problem In life A series reader of your blog will I am sure get A lot of answers to many roadblocks faced From time to time both personal and official Well done Mathu Keep it up !! With love Thatha

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    • pondernwonder says:

      Thanks Shruti… Your question ‘What did you learn this vacation?’ led to this blog post… Thanks for the inspiration! 🙂


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